What To Do If Your Girlfriend Doesn't Want To Have $!.e!x With You

I’m a cx therapist, and mi`smat`ched cx drives are the most common reason couples come in for  Two people are never going to want ¢ex at exactly the same time, every single time,


so all relationships have at least some degree of incompatibility. Couples can sometimes navigate minor discr'epancies with ease, but more often than not, they wind up fighting. <br />
If you’re the partner with the higher c.ex drive, you probably find yourself struggling with how to manage the differences in your lib`i dos. You don’t want to pressure or guilt your girlf riend into having c.ex with you, but you can’t turn off your desire either.<br />
I’m here to help those of you who want to bring the spark back into your c!ex life while being a respectful partner at the same time. Here, my top tips for managing those tr!cky moments when you want c!ex and your girlfriend doesn’t:<br />
• Be direct in your initiation. One of the most common pat!terns I see in my c!ex therapy practice is that the partner with the higher c!e!x drive gets tired of initiating, and claims he’s going to stop. I understand this tactic; it’s hard to repeatedly put yourself out there when you think you’re going to be rejected.<br />
That being said, it’s not a particularly effective move because the partner with the lower drive starts getting extra sensitive to indirect initiation. The smallest interactions get imb ued with suspicion and tension. “Is he trying to start something?” She starts shutting down phys!cally, and plling away from even little k!s`s"es and h`u gs.<br />
I know it’s vulnerable to put yourself in the position of  being turned down, but trying to ban yourself from init`iating makes things worse instead of better. The best thing to do is ini`tiate clearly and directly. Don’t be demanding.